3 Rules to Follow If You Want to Find A Commitment Oriented Man Online

3 Rules to Follow If You Want to Find A Commitment Oriented Man Online

A lot of women ask me the question: are men all just completely commitment-phobic?

Are there ANY men who will commit to me anymore? If there are, how do I find them?

And more recently, a lot of women are saying that due to the coronavirus pandemic, lots of men online seem to be even more commitment-phobic than before.

First of all, to answer that question, remember that online dating is an ocean.

However even during a global pandemic, there are and will always be plenty of men ready for commitment!

When dating online or in general (but especially when dating online), whether you will find a man who can commit to you emotionally is all about your personal mindset and approach!

If you trust and believe there are men out there who are willing to commit (there are plenty!), you will see that and find that. If you choose to believe the opposite, then you will find that!

It all depends on what you choose to see and believe in! Most men, just like most women crave that connection, that’s why focusing on “don’t wants” early on in dating and when getting to know someone actually works against you because it kills the vibe!

Here are 3 things you must do if you want to find a commitment ready man online

Make a point to follow these 3 simple rules!

1: Focus on setting a standard of how your dream relationship looks, and settle for nothing less.

2: Maintain healthy boundaries with every man you meet and date.

3: Be open to know the person standing in front if you!

Of course there will be some men who are looking to prey on women, but that’s why you have to be very observant of men’s behaviour and not only focus on what they say.

Any man can promise you the commitment you’re searching for, but consistency in actions over time is the key. Remember that players don’t have time for consistency in their actions!

And always remember….there are people getting married and committing to each other for life, every. Single. Day.

Regardless of what country or city you live in, I am 100% sure that if you go to city hall and/or church to check their marriage registers, they have a whole bunch of people committing to each other on a regular basis!

Limiting beliefs or scarcity mindset in dating will not help you if you truly want to find a commitment ready man.

Remember that there is one thing that will stop you from finding a man to commit to you emotionally, and that is that the energy that we radiate matters. A lot.

A lot of women are so eager to dive back into dating while still unhealed from previous dating experiences which will mostly end in the same pattern as before.

In other words, they’ll attract and encounter that same experience, jut with a different man!

It is easy to become a bit frustrated when dating, especially online dating – which requires a lot of patience to swim in that ocean of options.

However, just because is not happening to you right this moment, doesn’t mean that commitment-minded men don’t exist or that a great, committed relationship will never happen to you in the future!


Keep your mind and heart open, look for examples of commitment in the world around you, and stick to the three rules for finding a commitment friendly man online.

12 Online Dating Red Flags To Look Out For

Online dating apps are a haven for scammers, f*ckboys, adulterous and narcissists. It’s imperative that you are aware of some of the most common online dating red flags, so that you don’t fall for scams or become involved with the wrong men!

Here are some common online dating red flags that you may want to pay attention to:

  1. Men telling you exactly what they think “chicks dig” too soon. For example, if they come on too strong and profess undying love, exclusivity, a committed relationship, a long term future, having babies and children, describing and talking about weddings, etc. You need to watch out.
  1. Love bombing (he is a scammer, narcissist or a stalker)

    This is one I find that women tend to fall for a lot. Especially during this time of covid. When a woman is feeling lonely or desperate, she is much more likely to fall for this online dating red flag, so you have to be extra careful and look out for signs that this may be happening to you. Here’s some more information on love bombing.
  2. If they tell you early on that they have “deleted my profile to focus only on you” when they barely know you. Often, men like this online are scammers, f*ckboys, or even stalkers.
  3. You receive messages from them at weird times throughout the day. This can mean that he is in a totally different timezone to you, and could very well be a scammer from a country far across the world.
  4. If you start talking to a man and he goes off the radar for some time without warning, and when he comes back he uses the following excuses about himself: that he is a pilots, an oil rig worker, in the military, is billionaire businessman. (These are common explanations that scammers use to justify and explain away their strange absences.)
  1. If he is not available on evenings and weekends. This one is pretty obvious. It likely means that he is already married and trying to hide it from you so he can “get some on the side”.
  1. He claims to be a particular ethnicity, however when you check Facebook, all his friends locations indicate a very different location.
  2. He has outstanding arrest warrants – in the US, these are public records.
  3. If he very quickly explains that he just moved here or lost his job and asks if he can crash at your place. This is a bad one, as he probably just wants to leech off you.
  1. From early on, he appears to be a gift sender. Often, this can mean that he just wants your address and eventually will want or ask for a bank account number. This is typical behavior of an online daring scammer.
  1. If he never takes you to his place. (Obviously this can mean that he is already married.)
  2. If you try to search his facebook and find that his pics from recent times (ie: last week perhaps), show him with a wife or a girlfriend, though he claims that he’s single.

Those are the 12 biggest and most common online dating red flags. Do you have any to add to this list? Share them in the comments below!